Being spanked to tears, how crying is an important step in punishment.
Crying for me is important for a couple reasons, one it shows that I am remorseful for the actions I caused, that I understand how my behavior or poor judgment may have put me in danger or been detrimental to our relationship and overall happiness. But sometimes it is difficult for me to allow myself to cry, especially if I feel the punishment is unjust and unfair. Typically the pain of the spanking although very unpleasant is not enough to bring on the tears. Before I am given a spanking is important for me to understand and accept that my behaviors have disappointed. When I was a child my father could usually have me bawling like a baby with just a calm lecture about how much he loved me, but how disappointed he was in my behavior. This practice can still work at any age, I lecture is not meant just to be a vent for the head of household but should be done calmly and more as a discussion then a scolding. Most of the time even if I feel my punishment is unfair, with a calm discussion and lecture I will often see how my actions of put me in this position and how the one I care for was now disappointed in my behavior. When the lecture is done with love, compassion, and understanding it will break down my walls and put me in a headspace that will allow me to be truly remorseful. The spanking can then be administered and at the point where the pain of the punishment crosses the emotional threshold that I’m receiving this because I have disappointed someone the waterworks would turn on as all my walls come down. It is important to understand that the spanking should not he stopped just because she starts to cry. Often I will cry early on in a punishment because I feel so badly about my behavior, but I had not been truly punished yet. The head of household should always follow through with the spanking until it reaches a punishment level regardless of her emotional state. It’s obvious that if she learns she can simply cry and make it convincing the spanking would stop before she had been punished, she must never be allowed to have that type of control in discipline.
Also the act of crying for girl is a great emotional and stress relief. Girls are a very emotional creature, and naturally she can develop a heavy emotional burden of guilt, remorse, and sorrow. The feeling of letting your spouse down isn’t a pleasant feeling for anyone. She may feel disappointment in herself as well, which can trigger those same negative emotions. Crying offers a means of releasing these heavy negative emotions. After crying, the wife will feel as though she has been appropriately held accountable for her actions, and she will feel a sense of forgiveness from her partner. After a “good cry”, there will be a feeling that slate has been wiped clean, the infraction is now in the past, and the couple can now move forward without those feelings of guilt and disappointment. These are very good feelings for both spouses, and an important part of the entire experience.