Don’t think you’re safe just because you’re in the car.  It is his duty to discipline you when it is needed no matter where you are, often the car along with a roadside rest provides a suitable spanking place.

To the head of the house, remember discussions about behavior and the need to administer a spanking do not mean you yell at her out of anger or frustration.  Keep calm showing that you are in control and that you love her.  Even if you are very frustrated with her behavior, you never want to make it seem that your love is being taken away.

To the dependent, you must remember that you are being punished even if you don’t agree with it.  Do not argue with him or talk back, in fact it’s best to remain silent as you are being scolded saying nothing but make sure you acknowledge you understand what he is saying by nodding your head.  Once the spanking is over the HoH should give you an opportunity to express your feelings.  It’s okay to explain why you felt the spanking was unfair, but do not do it as an argument, simply tell him this is how you felt but then always thank him for the love he has shown you and acknowledge you will do better.

Punishment Entry

My mentor is now requiring me to make posts about punishments I have received, partly to keep a record of punishments given like a digital punishment book, and partly to shame and embarrass me.  So here’s my first entry

Punishment entry for Sunday, June 16, 2013

Offense:
I had a job interview at a clinical lab for a data gathering specialist position.  It was at Saturday, June 15 at 1 PM.  The job offered much higher pay good benefits and flexible hours.  However I felt very insecure about the interview and instead of going I found it easier to avoid the situation and not go, telling my mentor that I had gone.  I was not trying to deceive him, I just did not want to explain myself and how my nerves got the best of me.  After he started questioning me about the details my story fell apart and I confessed that I had not gone.

Punishment:

1.       On Saturday I was grounded with the bedtime at 8:30 PM and was only allowed to wear my punishment dress until his arrival Sunday afternoon.

2.       On my mentors arrival around 2 PM I had to contemplate my decisions by facing the wall with my hands on my head holding a piece of paper to the wall with my nose for two hours.  My dress was raised exposing my bottom and I could not talk or move for any reason.  If I let the paper fall 15 minutes would be added to my time for each time it fell.

3.       I had to remove my dress and lay over his lap naked where I was given a 10 minute spanking with a wooden paddle with no warm-up or breaks.

4.       For the next two weeks I have to stand facing the wall for one hour a day.

5.       I had to write this punishment notice and ask others if there was any other punishment I deserved or if this was sufficient.

Aftercare:

We talked quite a bit about my anxiety issues and my low self-esteem.  He comforted me and reassured me that I was still loved, and forgiven.

Thank you for reading this, and if you would like to help in my punishment you can send punishment suggestions to my e-mail at shygirl03@rocketmail.com or to my tumbler address  which I will have to share on tumbler and twitter.  Also I have to answer any questions honestly, no matter what the question is.

Any replies will be posted by Sunday, June 23, 2013 if any are received.

Unbearable

I know I have let him down and the filling that I have disappointed him is unbearable.  I feel sick to my stomach and I cannot stop crying.

I’m so sorry

Punishment rituals are very important to me.

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Spanking scene from the movie “Compliance 2012”

Punishment spanking should be given on the bare bottom without exception. She should not have any protection from the sting of the punishment and the embarrassment is an effective tool. However a full nude punishment should be reserved for the more serious offenses. Being completely naked and positioned in such a way that her sex is on full display is not just embarrassing but adds a deep level of humiliating shame. The girl being disciplined in such a way will feel deep shame and suffer some emotional damage so be sure that she is earned such humiliating punishment, and do not take it lightly. As the girl when it is decided your to be punished in such a way, do not fight with the shame you’re feeling and allow it to be the tool that helps you become a better wife/girlfriend etc..

Punishment spanking should be given on the bare bottom without exception. She should not have any protection from the sting of the punishment and the embarrassment is an effective tool. However a full nude punishment should be reserved for the more serious offenses. Being completely naked and positioned in such a way that her sex is on full display is not just embarrassing but adds a deep level of humiliating shame. The girl being disciplined in such a way will feel deep shame and suffer some emotional damage so be sure that she is earned such humiliating punishment, and do not take it lightly.

As the girl when it is decided your to be punished in such a way, do not fight with the shame you’re feeling and allow it to be the tool that helps you become a better wife/girlfriend etc..

Don’t put off discipline for long, if it is needed find a private location as soon as possible and administer punishment as you would at home. If she believes she can get by with more attitude when not at home, your road trips may become unbearable.

Don’t put off discipline for long, if it is needed find a private location as soon as possible and administer punishment as you would at home. If she believes she can get by with more attitude when not at home, your road trips may become unbearable.

Being spanked to tears, how crying is an important step in punishment.
Crying for me is important for a couple reasons, one it shows that I am remorseful for the actions I caused, that I understand how my behavior or poor judgment may have put me in danger or been detrimental to our relationship and overall happiness. But sometimes it is difficult for me to allow myself to cry, especially if I feel the punishment is unjust and unfair. Typically the pain of the spanking although very unpleasant is not enough to bring on the tears. Before I am given a spanking is important for me to understand and accept that my behaviors have disappointed. When I was a child my father could usually have me bawling like a baby with just a calm lecture about how much he loved me, but how disappointed he was in my behavior. This practice can still work at any age, I lecture is not meant just to be a vent for the head of household but should be done calmly and more as a discussion then a scolding. Most of the time even if I feel my punishment is unfair, with a calm discussion and lecture I will often see how my actions of put me in this position and how the one I care for was now disappointed in my behavior. When the lecture is done with love, compassion, and understanding it will break down my walls and put me in a headspace that will allow me to be truly remorseful. The spanking can then be administered and at the point where the pain of the punishment crosses the emotional threshold that I’m receiving this because I have disappointed someone the waterworks would turn on as all my walls come down. It is important to understand that the spanking should not he stopped just because she starts to cry. Often I will cry early on in a punishment because I feel so badly about my behavior, but I had not been truly punished yet. The head of household should always follow through with the spanking until it reaches a punishment level regardless of her emotional state. It’s obvious that if she learns she can simply cry and make it convincing the spanking would stop before she had been punished, she must never be allowed to have that type of control in discipline.
Also the act of crying for girl is a great emotional and stress relief. Girls are a very emotional creature, and naturally she can develop a heavy emotional burden of guilt, remorse, and sorrow.  The feeling of letting your spouse down isn’t a pleasant feeling for anyone. She may feel disappointment in herself as well, which can trigger those same negative emotions.  Crying offers a means of releasing these heavy negative emotions.  After crying, the wife will feel as though she has been appropriately held accountable for her actions, and she will feel a sense of forgiveness from her partner. After a “good cry”, there will be a feeling that slate has been wiped clean, the infraction is now in the past, and the couple can now move forward without those feelings of guilt and disappointment.  These are very good feelings for both spouses, and an important part of the entire experience.

Being spanked to tears, how crying is an important step in punishment.

Crying for me is important for a couple reasons, one it shows that I am remorseful for the actions I caused, that I understand how my behavior or poor judgment may have put me in danger or been detrimental to our relationship and overall happiness. But sometimes it is difficult for me to allow myself to cry, especially if I feel the punishment is unjust and unfair. Typically the pain of the spanking although very unpleasant is not enough to bring on the tears. Before I am given a spanking is important for me to understand and accept that my behaviors have disappointed. When I was a child my father could usually have me bawling like a baby with just a calm lecture about how much he loved me, but how disappointed he was in my behavior. This practice can still work at any age, I lecture is not meant just to be a vent for the head of household but should be done calmly and more as a discussion then a scolding. Most of the time even if I feel my punishment is unfair, with a calm discussion and lecture I will often see how my actions of put me in this position and how the one I care for was now disappointed in my behavior. When the lecture is done with love, compassion, and understanding it will break down my walls and put me in a headspace that will allow me to be truly remorseful. The spanking can then be administered and at the point where the pain of the punishment crosses the emotional threshold that I’m receiving this because I have disappointed someone the waterworks would turn on as all my walls come down. It is important to understand that the spanking should not he stopped just because she starts to cry. Often I will cry early on in a punishment because I feel so badly about my behavior, but I had not been truly punished yet. The head of household should always follow through with the spanking until it reaches a punishment level regardless of her emotional state. It’s obvious that if she learns she can simply cry and make it convincing the spanking would stop before she had been punished, she must never be allowed to have that type of control in discipline.

Also the act of crying for girl is a great emotional and stress relief. Girls are a very emotional creature, and naturally she can develop a heavy emotional burden of guilt, remorse, and sorrow.  The feeling of letting your spouse down isn’t a pleasant feeling for anyone. She may feel disappointment in herself as well, which can trigger those same negative emotions.  Crying offers a means of releasing these heavy negative emotions.  After crying, the wife will feel as though she has been appropriately held accountable for her actions, and she will feel a sense of forgiveness from her partner. After a “good cry”, there will be a feeling that slate has been wiped clean, the infraction is now in the past, and the couple can now move forward without those feelings of guilt and disappointment.  These are very good feelings for both spouses, and an important part of the entire experience.

After the spanking it is very important that you comfort her, don’t just leave her alone crying. This is her most vulnerable time and she needs you. Even if you’re upset (which you should not be) take the time to hold her and ensure her that she is forgiven. Once she has calmed down, possibly after corner time you can ask her why she got the spanking to ensure that she understands what the problem was and what to do next time to avoid punishment. This is a good time to allow her to talk as well, she may disagree on why she was punished and should allow her to explain her side of it. There may be a miscommunication or misunderstanding so allowing her to share her side of it without fear of further punishment or argument will strengthen and build a loving relationship. After she is had the chance to explain consider the punishment over, if you agree with her explanation or not, let it go and go on with your life. 

After the spanking it is very important that you comfort her, don’t just leave her alone crying. This is her most vulnerable time and she needs you. Even if you’re upset (which you should not be) take the time to hold her and ensure her that she is forgiven. Once she has calmed down, possibly after corner time you can ask her why she got the spanking to ensure that she understands what the problem was and what to do next time to avoid punishment. This is a good time to allow her to talk as well, she may disagree on why she was punished and should allow her to explain her side of it. There may be a miscommunication or misunderstanding so allowing her to share her side of it without fear of further punishment or argument will strengthen and build a loving relationship. After she is had the chance to explain consider the punishment over, if you agree with her explanation or not, let it go and go on with your life.