Punishment spanking should be given on the bare bottom without exception. She should not have any protection from the sting of the punishment and the embarrassment is an effective tool. However a full nude punishment should be reserved for the more serious offenses. Being completely naked and positioned in such a way that her sex is on full display is not just embarrassing but adds a deep level of humiliating shame. The girl being disciplined in such a way will feel deep shame and suffer some emotional damage so be sure that she is earned such humiliating punishment, and do not take it lightly.
As the girl when it is decided your to be punished in such a way, do not fight with the shame you’re feeling and allow it to be the tool that helps you become a better wife/girlfriend etc..
Don’t put off discipline for long, if it is needed find a private location as soon as possible and administer punishment as you would at home. If she believes she can get by with more attitude when not at home, your road trips may become unbearable.
Being spanked to tears, how crying is an important step in punishment.
Crying for me is important for a couple reasons, one it shows that I am remorseful for the actions I caused, that I understand how my behavior or poor judgment may have put me in danger or been detrimental to our relationship and overall happiness. But sometimes it is difficult for me to allow myself to cry, especially if I feel the punishment is unjust and unfair. Typically the pain of the spanking although very unpleasant is not enough to bring on the tears. Before I am given a spanking is important for me to understand and accept that my behaviors have disappointed. When I was a child my father could usually have me bawling like a baby with just a calm lecture about how much he loved me, but how disappointed he was in my behavior. This practice can still work at any age, I lecture is not meant just to be a vent for the head of household but should be done calmly and more as a discussion then a scolding. Most of the time even if I feel my punishment is unfair, with a calm discussion and lecture I will often see how my actions of put me in this position and how the one I care for was now disappointed in my behavior. When the lecture is done with love, compassion, and understanding it will break down my walls and put me in a headspace that will allow me to be truly remorseful. The spanking can then be administered and at the point where the pain of the punishment crosses the emotional threshold that I’m receiving this because I have disappointed someone the waterworks would turn on as all my walls come down. It is important to understand that the spanking should not he stopped just because she starts to cry. Often I will cry early on in a punishment because I feel so badly about my behavior, but I had not been truly punished yet. The head of household should always follow through with the spanking until it reaches a punishment level regardless of her emotional state. It’s obvious that if she learns she can simply cry and make it convincing the spanking would stop before she had been punished, she must never be allowed to have that type of control in discipline.
Also the act of crying for girl is a great emotional and stress relief. Girls are a very emotional creature, and naturally she can develop a heavy emotional burden of guilt, remorse, and sorrow. The feeling of letting your spouse down isn’t a pleasant feeling for anyone. She may feel disappointment in herself as well, which can trigger those same negative emotions. Crying offers a means of releasing these heavy negative emotions. After crying, the wife will feel as though she has been appropriately held accountable for her actions, and she will feel a sense of forgiveness from her partner. After a “good cry”, there will be a feeling that slate has been wiped clean, the infraction is now in the past, and the couple can now move forward without those feelings of guilt and disappointment. These are very good feelings for both spouses, and an important part of the entire experience.
After the spanking it is very important that you comfort her, don’t just leave her alone crying. This is her most vulnerable time and she needs you. Even if you’re upset (which you should not be) take the time to hold her and ensure her that she is forgiven. Once she has calmed down, possibly after corner time you can ask her why she got the spanking to ensure that she understands what the problem was and what to do next time to avoid punishment. This is a good time to allow her to talk as well, she may disagree on why she was punished and should allow her to explain her side of it. There may be a miscommunication or misunderstanding so allowing her to share her side of it without fear of further punishment or argument will strengthen and build a loving relationship. After she is had the chance to explain consider the punishment over, if you agree with her explanation or not, let it go and go on with your life.
So often I talk to others that feel when she is to be punished it should be done on the bare bottom or naked, believing that the loss of privacy and modesty helps in discipline. This is true, but don’t underestimate the power of a special outfit or punishment dress. It can be a very powerful tool encouraging anxiety and the dreaded butterflies as she prepares herself.
Consider making a special dress or having one made that would be designed to bring shame and embarrassment to a willful wife. Placing words such as disobedient girl or willful girl along with the notification that this is indeed a punishment dress can add a level of shame not reached just by nudity alone. Before a punishment is given she must go to the closet where the dress is kept, undress and place the shameful dreaded punishment outfit on which would now become her only source of modesty until said punishment is over. I can assure you the act of having to undress and where such an embarrassing outfit can be more effective than just being told to go strip. But like being naked, the dress should still only be used in private, having her wear it in public me go beyond the domestic discipline partnership in the trust she must have in you to keep her safe.
If you have an outfit that is used for punishment, send me a pic would love to see.
Rituals in discipline can be effective and often comforting. Rituals help a girl understand what is expected out of her, and what she can expect. Often if she knows she’s going to be spanked, she may want to obey but without a set rules or rituals guiding her she may be lost, become frustrated, I make the experience much more difficult than need be. When my father spanked me as a kid I also had a ritual then, but was not really aware of it. I would be sent to my room to put on my pajama bottoms and sit quietly at the end of my bed waiting until my father came to administer the paddling. I knew when I was told to go to my room exactly what I was to do, and what I was to expect. The act of preparing myself caused the butterflies to race in my tummy.
Now in a domestic discipline partnership the same rituals can be very beneficial. Having her prepare herself for punishment also can give you time to relax and calm yourself. Maybe having her prepare a bed with pillows, putting on a special outfit that has been designated for spanking, having her sit in a special chair or place before or after spanking is given, retrieving and placing the spanking implement in an appropriate, place or some action that is repetitive. Once you have established a ritual it is only effective if it is consistently done every time exactly the same way. If you have any rituals that you use now share them with me I would like to know.
I know it is not pleasant but sometimes as a girl in a domestic discipline relationship you will have to receive a spanking for your behavior. And of course at that time your most likely to be angry, and upset at whatever had transpired to put you in this position, be it an argument, speeding ticket, attitude and so on. The last thing you will want to do is lay over a lap and receive a spanking, but it is at this time you must find a way to calm yourself and do just that. Breathe deeply and allow your willfulness to disappear and humble yourself to your husband. Regardless of your frustration and if you feel you deserve it or not do your best to assist him in your spanking. Relax your body and mind, refrain from moving trying to hold still is possible, stay in position keeping your bottom in the right place to maximize the stinging of your punishment. When it is over, give yourself time to calm down and have a calm discussion with your husband and explain your viewpoint without being aggressive or willful.