I wanted to talk a bit about giving a spanking. Not as a person who gives them herself, but one who receives them. Of course I know there are many ways to administer physical punishment so as I speak about how a solid no-nonsense spanking should be given it’s of course through my personal experiences and beliefs on how it should be. In the end it’s my duty to accept however the punishment is given, but that does not stop me from having an opinion about it.
This is a punishment spanking, it is meant to be unpleasant and as the word implies punish a behavior or action. First a tool should be selected, the disciplinarian needs to know exactly what implement he will be using to administer the spanking. A punishment spanking requires the use of a spanking tool, this is not your hand. Hand spankings should be reserved for lighter less serious offenses. Hand spankings are also more personal and even considered more loving, this too is not in accordance with a punishment. The disciplinarian should mentally choose which implement he will be using and then commit to that implement not deciding to change it just before a spanking is given. Also do not use multiple spanking implements. As a submissive that is being punished for a disobedient act suddenly having the spanking stop so he can switch to a spoon, or strap, just to stop again switching to a different implement a few minutes later turns the act of correction into some type of game. Personally I feel makes the disciplinarian look somewhat unprofessional and unprepared. Like a child in a candy store jumping from one treat to the next. When choosing an implement you first must decide what type of physical correction is going to be administered? A spanking means you’re going to choose a tool such as a wooden paddle, hairbrush, wooden spoon or some type of rigid hard item which can deliver a stinging blow. A whipping means you going to choose something such as a switch, cane, strap, cord or some type of flexible lightweight rod which will deliver a sharp concentrated lash. Once you have chosen a tool you can decide if you will have it ready in the area where you plan to administer the spanking, or if she will have to retrieve the implement and bring it to you. Either way can be very effective. Being sent off to get whatever is going to be used on you can be very humbling, and on the other hand coming into a room and seeing the tool that will be used can immediately send butterflies into a girl’s tummy and upper throat. Certain tools such as a switch is always better if she is sent out to cut and prepare it herself. This is part of a ritual and is more effective than if it is already trimmed and cleaned.
Now that you have the tool selected, and you know how it’s going to be presented then next you need to know where/what location you will be ministering the spanking. I am a big believer in rituals, so having a special location you consistently use I feel is always best. So when you say “okay young lady, go to the punishment room and wait for me” or “it’s time we take a trip to the shed” she knows exactly what is going to happen without you just blurting out “I’m going to beat your ass.” The room you choose should already be prepared beforehand with whatever pieces of furniture or tools you need with the exception of the spanking implement if you intend for her to retrieve it. The room/area is to be clean and free of clutter and not full of toys or stuffy’s more professional than playful. I completely understand that not all situations can you be prepared for, and ready to go. There will be times that certain behaviors may require immediate correction and other times you may be traveling far from the environment you have set up. However you should be prepared for both these events and have a plan if such actions are necessary. Ideally preparing a room beforehand is still the best policy, and postponing punishment until everything is in place is worth the time. You can certainly have her stand in the corner or take a bath as you prepare. Having her prepare for a spanking is part of a good punishment ritual is well. Having a special punishment outfit, nightgown or pajamas she would have to put on before going to the designated room, or the knowledge that once in the room she had to remove all of her clothing and put them away neatly and out of sight will certainly get her ready both physically and mentally.
Okay now that you’re both in the room and she is standing before you in her embarrassing punishment dress or as naked as a newborn then this is the time you need to have a serious and controlled discussion with her about the behavior that she is being corrected for. She needs to be told that this is not for play but a serious punishment. Do not go easy on her, scold her explain in detail how her behavior has earned her this punishment. Explain what is expected out of her in the future what to do to avoid further punishment. This is very important, disciplinarians that do not scold properly or just assume she knows exactly why she’s being punished are making a mistake. A good scolding should have her remorseful or even in tears before the first spank ever lands. If you are unsure on how to scold properly take the time to do some research. Also scolding is not yelling, and not belittling her it is explaining exactly how she disappointed you. And for most submissive’s disappointing someone they care about can be more punishment than any spanking. Do not rush the scolding, take your time and let each word sink in. This is not the time for her to argue with you or give her side of the story. She is only to listen and to answer any of your questions with yes or no or yes sir no sir. The time for her side of the story past as soon as she was ordered to get ready for punishment. As a disciplinarian if you allow her to continue to argue with you, backtalk you, or give you attitude and you have lost control of the situation and you need to regain it quickly. It is not a game to punish someone, and she should not disrespect you
Once everything that needed to be said had been said then it’s time to move to the penalty phase of the punishment, which in this case is to administer the spanking. You should have her move into position quickly such as over your knee, bending over a chair, touching her toes, etc. By the way telling her to touch her toes does not mean putting her hands on her knees or grabbing her ankles, it means putting her fingertips to her toes, or placing her fingers underneath her toes. If she is not capable of actually bending forward to touch her toes then the directions should be placed your hands on your knees. It is a form of disrespect to tell her to touch her toes and then she only bends far enough to put her hands on her knees. Don’t let her get by with that. Once you have her in the proper position you can give her any further instructions even if she’s heard them before, such as “keep still, no kicking or touching your bottom.” Reminding her that her only job is to stay in place and not to try to prevent her spanking in any way. Excessive moving, or trying to block her bottom with her hands is not only disrespectful and shows lack of obedience it can also be dangerous. Yelping, crying, and screaming should be expected but there is no reason for her to talk or ask or beg for anything. She should not say any words at all. Begging or pleading is an attempt to reduce her punishment and should be treated the same way as if she was trying to block her bottom with her hands or move out of the way. Excessive noise can also be addressed, however it is okay to go lenient on this.
The first smack, should come quickly and hard. It should sting quite a bit and make her yelp out in both shock and pain. She is being punished and there is no such thing as a warm up spanking from someone being punished. The only reason he would want to use a warm up spanking is to lower her sensitivity and make the spanking more enjoyable. That is not supposed to happen with the punishment. The spanking should continue had a hard steady pace and go for quite some time. A disciplinarian needs to remember that she has chosen this lifestyle and he should not be timid about delivering a sound spanking. Spank her with enough force to ensure a very sore bruised bottom, she is not made out of glass you’re not going to break her. There was no need to set the amount of strokes or a set time, you certainly can do this if you wish but being she is being punished it’s better to continue the punishment until the disciplinarian feels that he has reached the level of remorse he is looking for. This could be different on any given day. Now that the spanking was over it is perfectly okay to be tender and forgiving. She has taken her punishment therefore whatever her misdeed has been paid for. You can hold her as she cries, or let her know that it’s over and it will not be discussed again. If she was good and remain still for her spanking she should be praised for her obedience. Most women are the most submissive right after a punishment spanking. Showing her tenderness and love is what she needs most at this point and will ensure her continued devotion to you.